About

For those who don’t know me, my name’s Chris Alvino. I’m an international sex and dating coach for men. One of my clients said it best, “You travel around the world and help guys get laid.” Yes, I do that. I also do so much more…

I help men heal those old wounds deep within their psyche around women, sexuality, and masculinity. I give men the guidance they need to reclaim their confidence and courage so that they can feel even more empowered in their lives.

In short, I help you figure out what’s standing between you and the life you want, a life filled with amazing, attractive, and sexual women. And then I help you break through those walls until you’re living the life you only dreamed of.

My Own Story…

I wasn’t always an international Playboy you know. When I started on this journey I was probably just like you (probably worse). I grew up a virgin who had never been kissed. All throughout high school and college I had never been on a single date (that’s not entirely true, once I went out on an accidental date and didn’t realize it was a date until the next day, but that story’s for another time).

During my senior year of high school, in order to “fix myself”, I discovered the pickup community. It started with David De Angelo’s Double Your Dating. From there I discovered Mystery and Style and all of the rest of the original pickup artists. I downloaded all of their seminars and read all their books. I didn’t know what was wrong, but I knew the answer was somewhere in this pickup world.

By the time I was in college I had wing men who would go out with me every weekend and we’d practice everything we learned from those books and seminars. Unfortunately, I never had any real results. Not even a kiss.

I didn’t get my first kiss until my mid 20’s. It was from a stripper who was walking me to the VIP room… and no, just like Chris Rock says, there’s NO SEX in the VIP room!

Fast forward to after college graduation. I was living in Beverly Hills, working a swanky programming job making six figures. Even with all of this, I still had zero women my life. I decided something was wrong with me and it needed fixing.

After months of work I eventually found a coach named Brian Begin of The Fearless Man. I was 26 at the time. Working under his tutelage, it would be another 9 months before I FINALLY got laid.

Brian’s coaching differed from a lot of other pickup artists. He emphasized going deep into your own emotions and psyche. I needed to heal a lot of old wounds. My whole life I was obese and had developed a terrible self-image. I grew up having endured a lot of emotional abuse that caused all sorts of psychosis and mental illnesses that I was unaware I even had.

Mental illness was never discussed in my family and was heavily stigmatized. But through the course of my own coaching, I learned I was a candidate for anxiety and major depressive disorder. I went on to see several doctors and got diagnosd as such. My journey through mental illness is for another time, but let me just say, don’t be afraid to get diagnosed. Diagnosis can be a blessing.

It took a lot of courage to confront all of that. But as I did, the layers of insecurity and low self-esteem started melting away, revealing a masculine, attractive, and grounded man underneath it all.

My Results

Brian helped me discover the confident, sexual, masculine man who I had hidden from the world. It was a painful process to bring him forth, but once we did, I became unstoppable.

Once everything was in alignment, it was as if the floodgates opened. I went from zero to hero seemingly overnight. I was dating and fucking multiple women every week and was living a playboy lifestyle. Also, I was doing this all as an obese man. So no, physical looks aren’t required to live the fantasy life you’ve always dreamed of.

I went on to have several long term girlfriends and was able to explore every sexual fantasy I’ve ever had. I became a prominent member of the swinger community and have been to my fair share of mansion sex parties. I explored BDSM and entered into several BDSM relationships. I’ve also explored different aspects of polyamory.

And all of this happened over the course of just several years. In terms of women and sexuality, I lived more in those several years than most men do in a lifetime.

The Dark Side

As I began to get more and more results, something peculiar started to happen—I kept needing to up my ante with women, nothing was ever enough. At the peak of it all, I had a steady girlfriend, we were swinging every weekend, and I was also hooking up with new women from Tinder every single week.

In any given week I could be fucking anywhere from 5-10 different women and I still wasn’t satisfied with my sex life. Every rejection still hurt and made me feel like I wasn’t enough, no matter my successes.

This became a strain on my longterm relationship and exposed a serious issue not talked about in pickup: most men get into pickup because they’ve been rejected by women for far too long. This rejection creates a hole in their psyche. We try to fill this hole with women, but it’s never enough, leading to other problems.

I tried to fill this hole with several addictions, including sex addiction. You see this a lot in pickup artists when they have nervous breakdowns. Hell, even the book”The Game” opens with Mystery having a nervous breakdown. It’s much more common than you’d think.

The Breaking Point

Eventually, everything came crashing down like a house of cards. My relationship of four years ended. At the same time, I lost my job. Our lease was up and I was losing my apartment. Add to this the fact that most of my credit cards were maxed out after trying to start my own startup and I was in a very big hole.

Essentially, I lost my job, family, home, and finances, all within a few months of each other. This was perhaps the darkest period of my life.

I was homeless, living on coaches with not a care in the world. In order to pass the time and get my dopamine, I lost myself in women and sex, fucking new women every week in a bender to forget my problems. This felt amazing at first, then, with each woman, the experience became emptier and emptier. Until I hit rock bottom…

I still remember my breaking point. I was in the middle of fucking a woman I had picked up in Las Vegas. She was simply another hookup. I thought I was king of the world! But then suddenly, everything about it felt so… empty. I literally remember thinking to myself, “Fucking her is no different than fucking my hand”. At that exact moment, I couldn’t wait for her to leave.

After that last hollow experience, I swore off women for good. I needed to find some real happiness before I attempted to be with a woman again (it would be over six months before I fucked another woman again).

Accepting The Call

During that period I worked on myself extensively. Going to the gym every day, meditating, journaling, and taking online courses became the norm. I still didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life, but at least I was in motion.

At the same time, I got a call from a friend who knew I was good with women. He needed help winning back a woman he had cold approached at the airport. He lived in England, and she in Bucharest. They had been texting for awhile but she abruptly stopped because he blew it.

I remember I spent over four hours on the phone with my friend, walking him through every text, line by line, explaining the psychology of female attraction and how he had blown it, and what he could do differently in the future.

That weekend he called me up and said, “Guess what? I have a flight to Bucharest for next weekend!” Using my advice he was able to win this woman over and she invited him to spend the weekend with her in Bucharest. At that moment he wanted to hire me as his dating coach.

The Rest Is History

After helping my friend, I realized I could help men AND make a living doing it. I immediately gave up all notions of being a programmer and threw myself into coaching full time. I now have a flourishing practice with clients all around the world. I’ve traveled all over the US and Europe coaching men on how to be even more masculine, sexual, and attractive men so they can live the life they’ve always dreamt of.

I spent almost a decade studying and working with my own coach, helping him with his students for years, developing my own coaching chops. I also have a background in leadership training and pedagogy. Something not a lot of pickup coaches have. On top of that, I was trained as a real computer scientist at the illustrious Harvey Mudd College.

With this kind of background, I bring a no-bullshit approach to coaching. I’ve spent decades studying the science of motivation, leadership, and learning, as well as psychology, attraction, and sexuality. And everything I teach has been either thoroughly vetted by science and research, or it’s been personally tested empirically by me. This is a “no bullshit” zone.

I’ve also healed my old wounds regarding women and masculinity. I’m able to love women, all women, more fully and freely than ever before. I no longer feel inadequate around both women and men. And this is the place I teach from.

I teach pickup, dating, relationships, sexuality, and masculinity from a place of love and wholeheartedness… because this is the only real way to teach it. Everything else will only exasperate your problems.

I’ve been to literal hell and back, facing my demons in the name of love and personal growth. It took tremendous courage and spirit. And, if you are currently in hell, I can show you the way out, because I was able to find it for myself. You are even more powerful than you realize.

Thank you for reading my story. I hope it’s connected with you in some meaningful way.

If this story has inspired you and you’re interested in coaching with me, book a free strategy session below so we can discuss how I can help you on your journey towards becoming a more powerful, confident, masculine man.